Which race do i belong to?

Am I a malay? Chinese? Indian? Or a mix of those 3 races?

Often me and my sisters face the same problem every time we fill up a form, be it any form. When it comes to identify our race, it is either malay, chinese, indian or LAIN-LAIN (others, btw is there such a race?)…what lain-lain? I just could not ‘tick’ either race. 

Why is that so? If I were to put malay, then would upset my father, on the other hand if I put chinese or indian, I don’t look like chinese or indian and my mum would feel upset too.

Few times when my schoolmates ( I was very young and I was not in Hijab) as well as my  clients (way back when I was involved in Real Estate industry) wished me Happy Deepavali, or Chinese New Year or Merry Christmas face to face or over the phone. I could not blame them as it is due to my name as well as the way I speak.

At home, in my father's presence, me and my sisters will switch our spoken language from Malay to English and when we converse with our mum we would switch back to Malay (just like chameleons switching colours). People say myself and my sisters look like Eurasians, this is due to the fact that we do look like we’re of mixed parentage.

I do not identify myself as a Bumiputra as we know in our country, identification of one's race solely depends on the father's race. I received a letter saying that I am not qualified to apply for ASB  as  'Kebumiputraan anda diragui'.. you see...my father is of mixed parentage chinese and indian whilst my mum is a malay.

I grew up in a family where we define ourselves being Muslims first, therefore which race we belong to does not matter. My parents share the same values, where we believe that identifying oneself to certain race does not give us any advantage,  we know that sole dependence in ALLAH (s.w.t) gives us the best advantage in life. 

Nonetheless, I love the fact that I am of mixed parentage. I enjoy the beauty of the 3 worlds, Malay, Chinese and Indian. I enjoy a wider perspective! You know people say that love is blind and it is colourless.

My point is that, in our country, there are thousands of Malaysians who are just like myself where we come from a family of mixed parentage. Furthermore, inter race marriage has become a norm and for the future kids of our country, identifying oneself to a certain race group will eventually be a problem. 

Perhaps someday, whatever forms that we need to fill up will have a race column with one 'bangsa', which is bangsa Malaysia.

You might agree or disagree, I am not in position to say what is right or what is wrong. My writings are solely based on my personal experience.

Wassalam.

Hakmilik Terpelihara Rosita Arman Michael 2012

 

my life is no longer on display in fb..so liberating...

What an awesome article, i totally agree!!!! The reason why people are crazily posting and commenting in fb is because they are lonely and desperate for attention...


 
Facebook: The Hidden Danger

by Yasmin Mogahed | February 27, 2011 12:57 am

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We live in an iWorld. Surrounded by iPhones, iPads, MYspace, YOUtube, the focus is clear: Me, my, I. One need not look far to see this obsession with the self. In order to sell, advertisers must appeal to the ego. For example, many ads appeal to the part of us that loves power and being in charge. DirectTV tells you: “Don’t watch TV, direct TV!” Yogurtland says: “You rule! Welcome to the land of endless yogurt possibilities, where you rule the portions, the choices and the scene.”

But advertisers aren’t the only ones who appeal to our ego. There is a global phenomenon that provides a breeding ground and platform for that ego. And it’s called Facebook. Now, I’ll be the first to assert that Facebook can be a powerful tool for good. It is, like many other things, what you make of it. A knife can be used to cut food which feeds the hungry, or it can be used to kill someone. Facebook can be used for great good—after all it was Facebook that helped facilitate the toppling of a dictator. Facebook can be used as a powerful tool to organize, call, remind, and unite. Facebook can also be used to strengthen our connection to God and to each other… Or Facebook can be used to strengthen the hold of our nafs (lower self or ego).
The Facebook phenomenon is an interesting one. In each and every one of us is an ego. It is the part of ourselves that must be suppressed (if we are to avoid Anakin’s fate of turning to the dark side, that is). The danger of feeding the ego is that, as the ego is fed, it becomes strong. When it becomes strong, it begins to rule us. Soon we are no longer slaves to God; we become slaves to ourselves.

The ego is the part of us that loves power. It is the part that loves to be seen, recognized, praised, and adored. Facebook provides a powerful platform for this. It provides a platform by which every word, picture, or thought I have can be seen, praised, ‘liked’. As a result, I begin to seek this. But then it doesn’t just stay in the cyber world. I begin even to live my life with this visibility in mind. Suddenly, I live every experience, every photo, every thought, as if it’s being watched, because in the back of my mind I’m thinking, “I’ll put it on Facebook.” This creates a very interesting state of being, almost a constant sense that I am living my life on display. I become ever conscious of being watched, because everything can be put up on Facebook for others to see and comment on.

More importantly, it creates a false sense of self-importance, where every insignificant move I make is of international importance. Soon I become the focus, the one on display. The message is: I am so important. My life is so important. Every move I make is so important. The result becomes an even stronger me-focused world, where I am at the center.

As it turns out, this result is diametrically opposed to the Reality of existence. The goal of this life is to realize the Truth of God’s greatness and my own insignificance and need before Him. The goal is to take myself out of the center and put Him there instead. But Facebook perpetuates the illusion of the exact opposite. It strengthens my belief that because of my own importance, every inconsequential move or thought should be on display. Suddenly what I ate for breakfast or bought at the grocery store is news important enough to publish. When I put up a picture, I wait for compliments; I wait for acknowledgement and recognition. With the number of likes or comments, physical beauty becomes something that can now be quantified. When I put up a post, I wait for it to be ‘liked’. And I am ever conscience of—and even compete in—the number of “friends” I have. (Friends, here, is in quotation marks because no one knows 80% of their “friends” on Facebook.)

This preoccupation and rivalry to acquire more, is mentioned in the Quran. God says:

“The mutual rivalry for piling up (of worldly things) has preoccupied you.”(102:1)

Whether that rivalry is in piling up wealth, or friends and ‘likes’ on Facebook, the result is the same: We have become preoccupied by it.

Facebook also strengthens another dangerous focus: the focus on other people, what they’re doing, what they like. What they think of me. Facebook feeds the preoccupation with others’ assessment of me. Soon, I enter the orbit of the creation. Inside that orbit, my definitions, my pain, my happiness, my self-worth, my success and my failure is determined by the creation. When I live in that orbit, I rise and fall with the creation. When the people are happy with me, I’m up. When they’re not, I fall. Where I stand is defined by people. I’m like a prisoner because I have given up the keys to my happiness, sadness, fulfillment, and disappointment to the people to hold.

Once I enter and live in the orbit of the creation—rather than the orbit of God—I begin to use that currency. See, the currency of God’s orbit is: His pleasure or His displeasure, His reward or His punishment. But, the currency of the orbit of creation is: the praise and criticism of people. So, as I enter deeper and deeper into that orbit, I covet more and more of its currency, and I fear more and more of its loss. While I’m playing Monopoly, for example, I covet more and more of its currency. And it feels great to be ‘rich’ for a moment. But when the game is over, what can I buy in the Real world with Monopoly money?

The human currency of praise is Monopoly money. It feels great for a moment to collect, but when the game is over, it’s worthless. In the Reality of this life and the next, it’s worthless. And yet, I even covet this false currency in my worship. In this way, I fall victim to the hidden shirk: Riyaa (showing off in worship). Riyaa is a consequence of living in the orbit of the creation. The deeper and deeper I enter into that orbit, the more I become consumed with gaining human praise, approval and recognition. The more I enter that orbit, the more I fear loss—loss of face, loss of status, loss of praise, loss of approval.

But the more I fear the people, the more I become enslaved.  True freedom only comes when I let go of the fear of anything and anyone other than God.

In a profound hadith (Prophetic teaching), a man came to the Prophet ﷺ and said: “O Messenger of God, direct me to an act, which if I do, God will love me and people will love me.” He ﷺ said: “Detach yourself from the world, and God will love you. Detach yourself from what is with the people, and the people will love you.”  [Ibn Majah]

Ironically, the less we chase after the approval and love of the people, the more we gain it. The less needy we are of others, the more people are drawn to us and seek our company. This hadith teaches us a profound Truth. Only by breaking out of the orbit of the creation, can we succeed with both God and people.
So while Facebook is indeed a powerful tool, let it be a tool of your freedom—not a tool of your servitude to yourself and the assessment of others.

This is how a courtship and romance should be...Musa (a.s) and Safurah

I am intrigued by the article written by Hena Zuberi, taken from suhaibwebb.com.

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I am from Generation X. Raised on ‘Pretty in Pink’ and Sweet Dreams romance novels, some of my friends read Mills and Boons, others raved about the unattainable love in the Thorn birds; but I preferred the grand passion of Wuthering Heights. That was my idea of a romance – filling each other completely, a religion of love.

It also came from Indian movies; rich girl falls for poor guy, they dance around trees in the rain, then drama ensues from the family, enter Prem Chopra character, the guy runs off with girl, the end. Sometimes, he would dash in with a monologue and take her away while she was getting married to someone else. How many girls are still waiting for their Sir Salman/Saif/Shahrukh Khan to take them away on a white horse in a red lehnga?

When in love, according to Freud, “against all the evidence of  her/his senses, a wo/man who is in love declares ‘I’ and ‘you’ are one, and is prepared to behave as if it were a fact.” This love is so destructive, so impossible; based on these notions, I have nursed many a heartbroken friend. I remember being in ER after she burnt herself with a cigarette because she wasn’t allowed to see him; another time helping to hide another’s bruises under makeup, where he punched her for talking to his buddy. My own quest was less for the pain, more for the eternal flutter in my heart. What were we thinking? Allah made us; He put these feelings in our heart, so why didn’t we ever think of turning to His book to see how ‘boy meets girl’ really works? It’s all in there.

I read of a great courtship, a love story that is so romantic it’s divine. The setting – Madyan, the land of frankincense, I can almost smell it lingering in the air. Historian Abdulla Al-Wohaibi writes that Madyan was “a flourishing ancient town with numerous wells and permanently flowing springs whose water had good taste. There were farms, gardens and groves of palm trees.”
Here we meet Safurah, the daughter of Shuyab `alayhi assalam (peace be upon him) at the side of a gushing spring, ‘keeping back, stopping her sheep from drinking with the sheep of the shepherds.’ And Musa (as), a fugitive on the run for eight days, crossing the burning desert sands from Egypt, feeding off nothing but tree leaves.

Their meeting is a beautiful example of chivalry; a perfect model of what it means to be a man and a woman. This was her daily routine and she waited out of her sense of modesty. She and her sister were strong women, after all herding their father’s flock wasn’t easy work. They were surrounded by rowdy men, reminding me of scenes from Liberty market in Lahore, Cairo’s Khan Khaleeli or the Westfield mall in Generic town, U.S.A. where rowdy boys hang out – men yelling, pushing, with little dignity or sense of composure. He, however, was a gentleman amongst the uncouth.
She didn’t need his help, she could have waited until all of the other men were done and then watered her flock, but that’s what makes it so special – that he still stood up to help her. Musa (as) was thirsty too but his sense of doing the right thing was stronger than his fatigue or his hunger. He was honorable – he could have ignored the sisters, could have said “I’m too tired, too important.” He had no relationship with these women. He didn’t know what family or religion they were from. All he saw was someone was being treated unfairly and for the sake of Allah, he was ready to help.
Sisters, a man like that will get you far in life. He will be just with your children, your parents and his parents. He will help you in your faith, your home and your life. As for the ones pushing each other to get the water from the well, they are the same brothers who will keep fighting for the dunya. They will keep working away for the next promotion and you will be left on the side like the two sisters from Madyan.

When Musa (as) approached the water, he saw that the shepherds had placed an immense rock, that could only be moved by ten men, over the mouth of the spring. ‘Musa embraced the rock and lifted it out of the spring’s mouth, the veins of his neck and hands standing out as he did so.’ He let their sheep drink and then put the rock back in its place.
After Musa (as) did this kind act, he went back in the shade of the tree and made du`a’. Unlike some MSA brothers who like to walk the sisters to their apartments and then ask them if they have food in the fridge, he didn’t ask the girls “Hey! I did you a favor, can you help me out now?”
No, he lies down on Allah’s green earth and makes this beautiful du`a’:

“So he watered (their flocks) for them, then he turned back to shade, and said: ‘My Lord! I am truly in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!’” (Qur’an, 28:24)

`Ata’ bin As-Sa’ib said in Tafsir ibn Kathir: “When Musa made that du`a’ the women heard him.”  What a beautiful du`a’ to make for all of us who are looking for a good partner or bliss in our married lives. This one du`a’ to Allah gave Musa (as) a job, a house and a family all at once. When you have nothing left except Allah, than you find that Allah is always enough for you.
The two sisters came home with the well-fed sheep, surprising their father Shuyab (as). He asked them what had happened and they told him what Musa (as) had done. So he sent one of them to call him to meet her father.
She said: “My father is inviting you so that he may reward you for watering our sheep.” In Tafsir ibn Kathir it states:
there came to him one of them, walking shyly, meaning she was walking like a free woman. Narrates `Umar ibn-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him: “She was covering herself from them (Musa) with the folds of her garment.”
Safurah is intelligent and intuitive. Abdullah bin Masud praised three people’s intuition: Abu Bakr Siddiq (ra) about `Umar ibn-Khattab, Yousuf ‘s (as) companion, and Safurah’s when she asked her father to hire Musa (as). “Verily, the best of men for you to hire is the strong, the trustworthy.” Her father said to her, ”What do you know about that?” She said to him, “He lifted a rock which could only be lifted by ten men, and when I came back with him, I walked ahead of him, but he said to me, walk behind me, and if I get confused about the route, throw a pebble so that I will know which way to go.”

He didn’t follow her, looking at her from behind – subhan’Allah. Imagine the scenario: he was a prince who must have had women throwing themselves at him but he ‘lowers his gaze’, which is the hukum for all Muslim men, but how many really adhere to that? Here Musa (as) is not Safurah’s husband yet, so he asks her to walk behind him, knowing very well that he doesn’t know the way but she does. It wasn’t a matter of ego or superiority; he was concerned about her honor as she was alone, without her sister; this way he was protecting her. Look at their society too – if all the men were such boors, could you put it past those people to gossip about her walking with him?

I often wonder how Musa (as) grew up to be this way? He came from such privilege, so much corruption existed in the court of Pharoah; he could have had any woman he wanted. But he learnt how to honor women from his pious foster mother, `Aasiya (ra); and continued this respect even hundreds of miles from his mother’s eyes. Mothers can be shields for their sons – even if the fathers are Pharoah.

Back to our courtship: Musa (as) takes Safurah’s ‘lead’ by making her throw stones to direct the route. Brothers, there’s a lesson for you here: it’s ok to ask for directions and consulting with a woman. Such a man’s bravado would be insulted today; he would be considered crazy or sexist for asking a woman to walk in his shadow and then make her do all the work! Armed with our liberal arts education, we often undervalue a man’s masculinity. Such hoopla is made over where the husband walks, in front, side by side, behind you. My husband is a foot and some taller than me, so big deal if he sometimes walks faster than me, he’s got longer legs. Other times he walks behind me especially in crowds and he is often there by my side. It doesn’t define us. Shouldn’t it matter more whether he is ahead, behind or by my side spiritually?

Safurah then hired Musa (as) and chooses to marry him under her father’s guidance. There was no long engagement and no endless conversations – no promises of unending love. How many times do we pass up great partners because we haven’t clicked? What did she like about him in those short meetings? First of all, she sees he is not a wimp, he stood up for her when they were strangers, imagine what he would do for her when she becomes his wife.
He complements her life; she needs a man in her household, to help her run her business (we see the same theme in the blessed union of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and our mother, Khadijah (ra). This story reinforces in me the reason why my husband is always going to be the leader of my family. He leads well so that I may willingly follow.

Musa (as) agrees to the terms Safurah’s family sets for their marriage. She admires his trust in Allah, his ability to problem solve, his strength and his manners. If women looked for his four characteristics in a man, instead of the countless other things we focus on, will we not find our own beautiful Musa?
Further, if we are consumed by the love we have for our spouse, will there be space in our hearts for Allah? Heathcliff and Catherine of Wuthering Heights had replaced God for each other. They needed to fuse their identities and thought they had attained heaven. Bronte’s mysticism notwithstanding, love like theirs is asocial, amoral and irresponsible. After reading Musa and Safurah’s love story though, I learned to love my husband for the right reasons: for his support, his strengths, and his sense of responsibility for the sake of Allah. After ten years, he still makes my heart flutter; but he doesn’t need to complete me. It’s enough that he complements me. And it is this evolving courtship that will inshaAllah knock the tunes out of every Indian movie.

A fight for a good fight...that is Jihad..

Jihad, a word which often wrongly perceived
Jihad, when people heard of the word, they feel threatened of an idea they cant conceived
Jihad, for all what it really means is fight for a good fight

Taking care of your mother and father
Being there for your sister and brother
Keeping an eye, protect each other
from lurking danger
that's what we call a fight for a good fight
Daily struggle just to put food on the table
that is a fight for a good fight
carry out righteous deeds with all your might
that is a fight for a good fight

the smallest of things
you cant imagine the happiness it brings
when you constantly striving yourself in improving
that's Jihad, a fight for a good fight....





Hakcipta Terpelihara Rosita Arman Michael 2012

Tanya Allah tentang jodoh, jawapan ada dalam bentuk kata hati dan bahasa alam

Bagi yang belum ada jodoh dan menginginkannya, sandara/i… mulai sekarang harus bersedia dan yakin diri saudara/i itu mampu untuk memikul tanggungjawab sebagai suami atau isteri.

Harus sedia menerima pilihan terbaik di sisi Allah. Hati dan fikiran yang terbuka atas keyakinan dan penyerahan total pada Allah SWT.

Ketika benar-benar sudah bersedia, sentiasalah menyedari Allah bersama keyakinan bahawa Allah sedang dalam memproses pertemuan dengan jodoh saudara/i dan seterusnya dinikahkan.

Untuk mendapatkan jodoh seperti yang diinginkan, saudara/i harus menjadi seperti apa yang saudara/i inginkan.

Inginkan yang baik, sikap saudara/i juga harusnya baik. Ingin dipercayai, saudara/i juga harus menjadi orang yang dipercayai…. dan seterusnya apa jua yang saudara/i inginkan.

Saudara/i harus bersedia menerima pilihan Allah kerana bersedia ini menjadikan saudara/i orang yang dipercayai Allah. InshaAllah akan disatukan nanti saudara/i dengan jodoh saudara/i.

Bersedialah…. siap!! Saya menunggu jemputan meraikan perkahwinan saudara/i. 100% yakin pada Allah.

Dipetik dari www.fuadlatip.com

Tengahari tadi sewaktu selesai menunaikan solat zuhor berjemaah di masjid kelana jaya, saya ternampak sebuah buku yang dijilid rapi bertajuk 'i love Allah'. Lalu sepantas kilat tangan mencapai dan terus membaca isi kandunganya.

saya memang peminat tegar buku2 motivasi,  dan selalu ingin mengambil tahu tentang siapakah pakar2 motivasi terkini dan bagaimana cara memberikan inspirasi dan memotivasikan para pelajar saya. Tetapi nama Fuad Latip belum pernah saya dengar dan berasa kagum setelah mula membaca tulisan beliau tentang bagaimana berkomunikasi secara berterusan dengan Pencipta kita akan membuat kita kekal dalam memotivasikan diri kita.

Kita manusia biasa, apabila di uji barulah mula berdoa dan merintih serta merayu meminta pertolongan dari Allah. Apabila pulang dari seminar2 atau bengkel motivasi barulah ada adrenalin rush untuk berubah, jiwa berkobar2 dan meronta2 mahukan perubahan samada dalam diri sendiri atau pelajaran, hubungan kekeluargaan ataupun pekerjaan. Tetapi yang amat biasa berlaku setelah  berubah, ianya hanya sementara. Oleh itu Fuad Latip menegaskan bahawa adalah amat penting untuk terus bermotivasi dalam perubahan ialah 'CONSTANT COMMUNICATION WITH ALLAH'. 

Pasti ramai yang tertanya2 bagaimana hendak berkomunikasi dengan Allah dan mengapa?

Bagaimana? Dengan bercerita, berbual2 dengan Pencipta kita. Allah pasti tahu apa yang berada didalam hati kita tapi kita haruslah secara sedar bercerita untuk menunjukkan kesungguhan kita memerlukan Allah disetiap ketika.

Tatkala membaca lebih lanjut tulisan Fuad Latip, saya dengan sepantas kilat memahami dan seakan2 pernah terfikir tentang apa yang di kupas dan dikongsikan didalam tulisan beliau.

Sebagai contoh berkomunikasi dengan Allah, pasti anda tertanya2 takkan kita bercakap sendirian? Jangan risau, cakaplah didalam hati anda. Bukankah selama ini kita sentiasa ber 'mind-chat' dengan diri kita? itu yang di tekankan oleh Fuad Latip. Agak menggelikan hati kerana saya sendiri telah lama mengamalkan kaedah ini dimana saya sentiasa bercerita tentang perasaan dan tentang segalanya pada Allah. Paling saya suka semasa memandu kereta, baring2 di atas katil, juga semasa menonton tv, pelikkan?

Contoh apabila saya bercerita pada Allah, saya selalu kata begini 'Ya Allah, Engkau telah berikan aku segala2nya dan aku sangat bersyukur. Tapi kadang2 aku sedih jugak sebab aku belum lagi berumahtangga, aku sentiasa berusaha Ya Allah dan Kau tahu yang aku sangat bersungguh2 dalam usaha aku. Tapi kan Ya Allah, aku faham akan takdir Kau Ya Allah, sebelum ini aku tau aku jugak belum bersedia, tapi sekarang aku sudah bersiap sedia, oleh itu temukanlah aku dengan jodoh yang beriman yang Kau telah takdirkan untuk aku, aku yakin dengan doa ku Ya Allah'.

Di dalam buku FuadLatip itu juga saya ingin kongsikan satu doa dengan pembaca sekalian. Doa ini adalah untuk orang macam saya yang masih lagi berusaha untuk bertemu jodoh. 

DOA UNTUK KEKASIH

Dengan nama Allah

Yang Maha Pengasih lagi maha penyayang

Ya Allah

Seandainya telah Engkau catatkan

Dia milikku, tercipta buatku

Satukanlah hatinya dengan hatiku

Titipkanlah kebahagiaan antara kami

Agar kemesraan itu abadi

Ya Allah

Ya Tuhanku yang Maha Mengasihani

Seiringkanlah kami melayari hidup ini

Ke tepian yang sejahtera dan abadi

Maka jodohkanlah kami

Tetapi Ya Allah

Seandainya telah Engkau takdirkan

Dia bukan milikku

Bawalah dia jauh dari pandanganku

Luputkanlah dia dari ingatanku

Dan peliharalah aku dari kekecewaan

Ya Allah Ya Tuhanku

Yang maha mengerti

Berikanlah aku kekuatan

Menolak bayangannga jauh ke dada langit

Hilang bersama senja yang merah

Agarku sentiasa tenang

Walaupun tanpa bersama dengannya

Ya Allah yang tercinta

Pasrahkanlah aku dengan takdirMu

Sesungguhnya apa yang telah Engkau takdirkan

Adalah yang terbaik buatku

Sesungguhnya Engkau maha mengetahui

Segala yang terbaik buat hambaMu ini

Ya Allah cukup Engkau sahaja yang menjadi pemelihara ku

Didunia dan diakhirat

Dengarlah rintihan dari hambaMu yang dhaif ini

Janganlah engkau biarkan aku bersendirian

Didunia ini mahupun di akhirat

Menjuruskan aku kearah kemaksiatan dan kemungkaran

Maka kurniakanlah aku seorang pasangan yang beriman

Agar aku dan dia dapat sama2 membina kesejahteraan hidup

Ke jalan yang Engkau redhai

Dan kurniakanlah padaku keturunan yang soleh dan solehah

Ya Allah

Berikanlah kami kebahagiaan didunia dan kebahagiaan diakhirat

Dan peliharalah kami dari azab api neraka

Amin…amin…ya rabbal alamin….

Baru-baru ini saya bukan sahaja ditinggalkan seminggu sebelum majlis pertunangan saya, malah difitnah pula. Alangkah hebat ujian Allah, saya menerima hakikat bahawa tiada jodoh antara saya dan dia. Cuma yang amat menyedihkan adalah cara dia memutuskan pertunangan dan juga tuduhan yang dilemparkan. 

Benarlah kata Fuad Latip, Allah memberikan tanda dan jawapan melalui dua cara, KATA HATI KITA dan BAHASA ALAM. Minda saya kata pasti boleh didalam meneruskan perhubungan dengan lelaki yang telah meninggalkan dan memfitnah saya, tetapi kata hati sentiasa berasa sebaliknya. Apabila ada percanggahan antara hati dan minda, jiwa menjadi tidak tenang. Saya amat menyayangi lelaki tersebut tetapi jiwa tidak pernah tenang semasa bersama dia.

Sekarang apa yang saya pelajari dari peristiwa yang saya lalui? saya harus sentiasa BERKOMUNIKASI DENGAN ALLAH, merayu dan merintih, mengadu dan bertanya tentang apa sahaja pada ALLAH. Pasti ada jawapannya, bagaimana? Pabila hati berasa sangat menginginkan atau tidak menginginkan setelah kita bertanya pada Allah.

Kepada sesiapa yang pernah melalui peristiwa kejam yang saya lalui ini, bersabar dan berceritalah dengan Allah, hati pasti menjadi tenang.....

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Fast forward ke Oktober 2017, pengalaman yang telah saya lalui dengan manusia yang membuat saya patah hati telah menjadikan saya manusia yang lebih baik. Saya telah menerbitkan ebook tentang motivasi jodoh yang bertajuk Enjoy! Kembara Bertemu Jodoh.


Tujuan ebook ini ditulis.
Niat utama saya adalah untuk 'reach-out' kepada seberapa ramai para pencari belahan jiwa atau pencari jodoh diluar sana supaya tetap yakin dan berbahagia dalam pencarian.
Pencarian tentang apa?
Tentang Jodoh, ADA atau TIADA?
Bagaimana?
Saya menggalakkan pembaca mengikuti panduan-panduan yang telah di 'highlight' kan  untuk kekal optimis, positif dan bahagia sementara menanti jodoh tiba.

Siapa digalakkan untuk membaca?
A.  Para pencari belahan jiwa atau jodoh, yang selalu bertanya soalan-soalan yang mengganggu  minda dan jiwa. Antaranya,
Siapa jodohku?
Memang ada atau tidak ada jodohku ini?
Jika ada, kenapa tidak kunjung tiba?
Bila jodohku sampai?
Haruskah aku mencari atau menanti?
Apakan tujuan untuk mendapatkan jodoh?
B. Para pencari belahan jiwa yang lelah dalam pencarian, pelbagai usaha dijalankan tetapi masih gagal sehingga ada perasaan putus asa.
C. Mereka yang masih Single yang memilih untuk merahsiakan pencarian jodoh kerana tertekan oleh pendapat orang sekeliling.

Apa transformasi atau faedah yang bakal pembaca dapat setelah membaca buku ini?
A. Memahami dan mendapatkan jawapan kepada soalan-soalan yang menggangu minda dan jiwa.   
B. Tindakan atau strategi yang boleh membantu mendapatkan atau menemukan jodoh.
C. Para pencari jodoh menjadi semakin tenang, yakin diri dan tahu apa yang harus dilakukan dan tidak patut dilakukan.
                      
Apa kelainan ebook ini?
   i. Style Penulisan dan bahasa yang digunakan ringkas tetapi padat dan sampai kepada pembaca;
  ii. Penulis telah mencuba panduan-panduan yang diketengahkan dan telah berjaya dalam penemuan jodohnya;
 iii. Penyampaiannya santai dan terselit humor ringan;
 iv. Pembaca dapat merasakan yang penulis memahami situasi mereka kerana penulis sendiri pernah mengalama masalah yang sama;
v. Terdapat kata-kata hikmah atau quotes tentang jodoh yang dipenuhi illustrasi lukisan tangan yang menarik.

Tentang Penulis
Seorang Pensyarah yang telah bertemu jodoh sewaktu umurnya menghampiri 40 tahun. Memahami dilemma dan kesulitan para pencari belahan jiwa. Penulis ingin berkongsi pengalaman dan tindakan yang patut dan tidak patut diambil supaya kembara pencarian jodoh sentiasa membahagiakan.

6. Cara Pembelian ebook ini.
1. 'Like' FB page Suffiya Rose Books and Designs dan click sign-up atau email terus kepada penulis di suffiyarose2017@gmail.com, juga boleh terus whatsapp ke 0166734867;
2. Buat pembayaran dan emailkan bukti pembayaran;
3. Penulis akan emailkan ebook tersebut.
4. Enjoy!
7. Harga ebook adalah RM 15.00 (Malaysia), $5 (Singapura dan Brunei)
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so beautiful..Allah the Almighty, The Most Merciful..signs of a healthy repentance