Swith on the right intend, then focus and finally excel!

Took this pic with my new camera, i'm lovin it

Life is just like being in the container filled with coloured balls in the above picture. We will encounter different colours with different patterns throughout our lives. 

What's important is how we face and react to situation and people around us. 

Today's topic is to explore the meaning of 'What you focus expands, so focus on what you want'.

True, we don't always get what we want , but we do get what we want if we spend time long enough to see the desired results to come to picture. It's just like planting seeds, we need to water it and wait patiently. The rest is in Allah's  (The Lord of the Worlds) hands. The key ingredient here is FOCUS, be it in our work, relationships and studies.

At work, we always complaint about not being treated the way we should be treated. Also, we tend to hate and despise the people and our surroundings. We drag ourselves to work thinking on how to just to survive the day. We carry out idle talks, gossiping and whining, looking at other people's mistakes and flaws. Again, at work we focus on others instead of FOCUSING on our tasks and responsibilities. 

My work by nature requires me to do a lot of thinking, contemplating, observing and analysing. That's what  Lecturers do, filling up our heads with information and knowledge to be transferred to students. We Lecturers have to think 15 steps ahead in order to equipped ourselves, (it's funny when one of the Human Resource Personnel was curious and asked me why I do not mingle around with others and always keep to myself most of the time).  Don't get me wrong, I am not an anti-social person, in fact I am a strong Sanguine and Choleric in nature (remember 4 temperaments?) I do mingle around, I chat and spend some time with students. My students are all intelligent people and I love them.

Everyday I  FOCUS on my lectures and constantly reminding myself on my MISSION and VISION while carrying out my work. Yes, I do face challenges and some small issues as I am currently teaching 2 new subjects. However, I manage to carry out my work although it is moving quite slowly, yet it moves. 

My point is to give ourselves a chance to FOCUS and see how things move, wait a little bit longer and put our trust in Allah The Lord of the Worlds.

Just like when we blow balloons, it needs the right amount of air to be blown in order for it to bloat the right size. We human beings tend to give up easily when things do not come our way. Have you ever met those who love to start new things enthusiastically just to stop half way when their interest faded? I am sure we have, even we ourselves do the same sometimes right?

In relationships, nowadays we see that people changing life partners, boyfriends and girlfriends easily. Divorce rates are on the rise, not only in Malaysia, but it is a global epidemic.

Why is it so? Those in relationships tend to focus on faults of others. Instead, they should FOCUS on how to work things out. You might think I am being an idealist instead of realist.  It has become a norm and widely accepted that when there is a problem, the easiest way out for those in relationships is to breakup, or running away like cowards, broadcasting to the whole world that they have become victims, whining and crying, embracing self-pity lifestyle. Sad isn't it?

Believe me, I have seen and met these kind of people, they think the whole world is against them.  

 

Yes, any relationship can be mended or fixed if we FOCUS long enough to find ways to solve problems. A person with  pure heart and intentions sees problems as opportunities to polish a relationship so that it can be shinier and makes the love stronger.

How to make things work if you yourself are unsure and confused? Easy. Ask ALLAH, He will give you the answers. Don't expect immediate answers, wait for a while and slowly yet surely the answers will come and you will know it. You just know it.

In studies, we tend to complaint too much. Not enough time to complete our assignments when what we do most of the time is spending idle talks in social networks, stalking others, reading narcissistic self-proclaimed incredible people, self-proclaimed angels and devils and hardcore whiners and complainers status. Thanks to Allah, I have liberated myself by shutting my fb totally, freedom at last. Free from reading whiners and complainers status who are disappointed with their lives and yet not doing anything about it. Believe me, whiners and complainers will remain in the same exact situation even in 15 years from now.

Back to focus on studies, students normally focus on how to get good marks without putting any effort. Perhaps you will disagree, but this is based on my observation and experience. Let's say in two days is the dateline to submission of assignments, students will start doing it today. They will crazily find information just to copy and paste it in their assignments.  A Lecturer spots or identifies 'copied and pasted assignment works' just like a chameleon spots a dangerous situation and changes its colour immediately. 

FOCUS should be on the process of carrying out the assignment. A good assignment does not lie in the hundreds of information gathered and typed, but rather in the arrangements and making some meaning out of it.

Students should find meaning in attending lectures and tutorials. Most of the time, they tend to drag themselves as though being forced . However, I am lucky as my students are not of those type of people. They seem to enjoy my classes ( I would want to believe that..smiling).

My point is no matter where we study or who we mingle around with, the most important thing is to know on what to focus on. Once we know our focus, we will be able to prioritise. As simple as that.

So, be it in relationships, work or studies, if we FOCUS on the right things and long enough, there is a guarantee that we will reap benefits rather than asking ourselves 'what ifs' when we stop or giving-up too soon. That's what it means by 'What you focus on expands, so focus on what you want'.

You might agree or disagree, but my main intention is to share and remind everyone including myself that what we focus will lead us somewhere, In Sha Allah a better place.

Remember : if you are somewhere, you are everywhere, but if you are everywhere, you are nowhere-Rumi.

Hakmilik Terpelihara Rosita Arman Michael 2012.

Ayuh! Anda boleh berubah..Bahagian 3

Konsisten   

“Amal kebajikan yang disukai Allah ialah sentiasa dilakukan walaupun sedikit”- sabda Rasullulah s.a.w

(Riwayat Bukhari)

 

Hadis diatas menyatakan tentang betapa Nabi Muhammad menyeru agar Umat Islam sentiasa konsisten di dalam melakukan perubahan yang baik. Iaitu sentiasa mengenalpasti apa kekurangan dan kelemahan kita agar dapat diperbetulkan kearah yang lebih baik lagi.                    

Konsisten dalam erti kata lain dikenali sebagai Istiqamah. Istilah ini paling dicintai oleh Rasullullah. Sifat konsisten sebenarnya adalah satu sifat yang menceritakan tentang karakter seseorang insan itu secara total. 

Saya mula menanamkan sifat konsisten apabila saya inginkan perubahan kerjaya dari seorang Eksekutif kepada Pengajar beberapa tahun yang lalu, saya tahu saya tidak akan berpatah balik dan jalan yang akan saya tempuhi adalah jalan sehala, tidak boleh ‘reverse’ lagi.

Mari kita lihat betapa konsistennya kejadian siang dan malam. Saling mengekori dan berselang seli antara satu sama lain, selapas siang, munculnya malam, selepas malam, munculnya siang. Bayangkan apa akan jadi kalau tiba-tiba siang merajuk dan tidak mahu muncul? Kita akan mengeluh, bila siang akan datang? Malam resah menunggu sebab ‘shift’ dia sudah tamat. Kita pun tidak perlu bangun pagi dan tidak perlu bekerja, alangkah peliknya. Jika malam pula merajuk, kita semua terpaksa bekerja tanpa henti kerana malam tidak kunjung tiba.

Begitulah pandangan manusia terhadap sifat konsisten ini. Jika seseorang itu konsisten, dia dipandang tinggi kerana tidak berputus asa dalam usahanya.

Tetapi jangan salah sangka, konsisten disini merujuk kepada perubahan yang membawa kepada keaadaan yang lebih baik kepada pembuat keputusan untuk berubah, bukan konsisten didalam melakukan perkara yang negatif atau bertentangan dengan ajaran agama.            

Info wow! Kelajuan setiap titis air hujan dari awan tidak melebihi 8 meter sesaat.

Lihat Info Wow di atas , tidak terkira berapa banyaknya titisan hujan setiap kali turunnya hujan. Setiap titis mempunyai kelajuan yang konsisten dari segi masa dan jarak. Maka, konsisten juga menjana kehebatan.

Konsisten amat berkait rapat dengan sukan terutamanya sukan balapan atau acara padang amat diminati oleh setiap golongan masyarakat. Kita mengagumi betapa tangkas, kemas, laju dan penuh tekad yang di jana oleh pelumba lari dalam acara larian. Pernah kah kita melihat pelumba lari yang walaupun mengetahui akan mendapat tempat paling tercorot berhenti sebelum tiba ke garisan penamat? Tidak pernah bukan? Ini kerana adalah lebih memalukan dan hina untuk menyerah kalah dengan berhenti sebelum tiba di garisan penamat. Ini menunjukkan pelumba lari hanya kenal erti konsisten dalam larian walaupun tiada harapan untuk mendapat pingat.

Ambil satu lagi contoh, katakan anda gemar berkunjung ke sebuah kopitiam kerana kelazatan dan keharuman kopinya. Tukang buat kopi itu adalah seorang makcik yang manis senyumannya dan periang orangnya. Kopi yang dibuat makcik periang itu sangat sedap. Tiba-tiba satu hari kopi makcik periang itu berubah rasanya. Tidak sesedap seperti biasa, kurang gula dan sangat cair. Anda mula tertanya-tanya dan anda juga berasa kecewa. Begitulah diibaratkan betapa pentingnya konsisten jika kita ingin melakukan sesuatu perubahan.

 Dapat disimpulkan bahawa konsisten dilihat sebagai satu sifat mulia. Jika kita tidak konsisten didalam menjalankan perubahan yang kita inginkan, kita telah mengecewakan orang lain, malah lebih sedih lagi kita telah mengecewakan diri kita sendiri. Ini kerana, kita tidak akan tahu apa hasil yang akan kita dapati nanti, maka perubahan yang dimulakan dengan rasa berkobar-kobar akan mati ditengah jalan.

   

 Apabila kita membuat perubahan, konsisten dilihat amat penting kerana ia melambangkan satu tahap keyakinan yang tinggi yang terdapat didalam hati. Saya akan menceritakan tentang elemen Keyakinan didalam penulisan seterusnya.

Bersambung..

Hakmilik Terpelihara Rosita Arman Michael 2012